Saturday, February 17, 2018

Planning Our First Baby Shower

Our wedding location was awesome, and the mere thought of it brings lots and lots of goose bumps. The sweet memories of vows, family, smiles, music, dancing mixed with and all the preparations that took place, make those memories so much worthwhile. Never mind almost lost track here. This is the post we talk about the planning for our first baby shower. 

Focus here. 
We often wonder, if there would be anymore baby shower(s) in the future! Well, we live to see! In planning our shower, our thought processes geared to finding an ideal location with an unforgettable ambiance; as we always want people to have that "wow factor", and be moderately exuberant. We wanted a place with good food, good lightening, and great customer service, parking, and spacious enough for our guests. 

Luckily, we found a very nice place closer to us, and the price was decent to include food and drinks. The tricky part was setting the date, as we didn't want it to be to late in our pregnancy, and too early as well. We agreed on March 6th 2016, as the date exemplified Ghana's independence, and our planned delivery date was June 2016. Also, we thought that people would remember the date, as most of the invitees were Ghanaians. 

Our culture dictates that we send out invitations to all guests, so we did.  We bared additional costs in printing the cards, as things would have it, our invitation cards had to breath our excitement of becoming parents, and we needed enough to mail out to all our guests. Some actually didn't show up because they were invited verbally, and, or did not get the actual card in the mail. Any-who, that’s a different future post. 

Mind you, we rented out a hall for about 100-120 people, in doing the math; we had to pay per head. Let's not do the math, no, no, no; let's not do the math. We couldn't leave people out, especially, those who had always supported us. 

The main emphasis for this post is that our co-worker's, and family were outstanding with helping us in all aspects of our shower. They were helping in helping us with decorations, making the cake, and sorting out souvenirs. Every step of our journey has been possible because of God's grace, our family and friends. This is the fundamental message well scripted in most of our blog posts, and we pray this inspires you. 

The shower was awesome!
We'll tell you about it in the next post. 

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Thursday, February 15, 2018

As We Reflect On Our First Pregnancy

Our due date is nearing by; soon, reality will begin to set in. We begin to realize that we need more room for all of us, not to mention, more space for all the things we would need! Also, our new lives we require getting two of everything. It's really happening, we would often say to each other. Still don't know why we were so shocked that things were moving as we prayed for, maybe we were overjoyed and drooled in the joys of parenthood.

God is always on our side.
We seem to do well in tougher situations, and God always sees us through.  We are the ideal couple to talk to if you don't believe in God, because our life story exemplifies God's grace. What are the odds that our next door neighbor who had a bigger place decides to move at the same time we begin to look for a bigger place? Not just that, everyone who hears that we are looking for a bigger place joins in to ready our new place, with new closet, new floors, new tub and on, and on, and on. The best part, we did not have to move far, and the transition was painless to the point that, everything would eventually go as planned.

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With a few good family members and friends we would move into our new spacious place, by God's grace. Although, once agin, it looks like we might need a bigger place, as our babies are growing and seem to have overtaken all the so called "space" we once had.

I would soon realize that a new responsibility as a hubby and a prerequisite for fatherhood; baby-shower planning. My way of expressing the joys of life, and the blessings in our lives is to celebrate. Its okay to say, I could sometime go overboard with planning events, but, life is precious, and I'm all about the unforgettable moments that are cherished a lifetime. With that said, the baby-shows had to speak for itself. Our first baby-shower, it had to be grand, it had to be classy, and most importantly, bring happiness and joy to my Queen.

Catch you on the next post!
Let's talk more about Our First Baby-shower.

Dennis &Lilian 

Monday, February 12, 2018

Reflecting Our First Pregnancy

Looking back, and glancing through all the beautiful photos we took during our gestation, we unravel all sorts of emotions within us, and it awakens a deep sense of relief, and high sense of accomplishment. This, to write and share with you, gives us closure. We hope our blog inspires you. We wish we had kept blogging throughout journey, nonetheless, time constrains did not allow that. Still not to late to reflect and share with you all. 

As we mention in the last post, seeing them grow during each medical visit was so inspiring. Each time we would come home with a different ultrasonic photograph and keep at them from all angels. In fact, we keenly anticipated each visit because of this. For me it was magical and surreal. I'm forever amazed, and forever astonished by God's work in our lives. 

Let talk more about being afraid. Yep! It was scary to be pregnant. Really it was, and we say this not scare anyone, but because we knew and had seen so many complications of twin pregnancies, we remained a little edgy on our seats, and that made us afraid at times. At times we would sway out of optimism and be afraid of the unknown, and a way that we got our minds of that was to believe in God for a positive outcome, keep praying and keep working.

By being a little afraid, we remained more vigilant to any uncertain concerns. If we felt something was wrong we sought medical care promptly. We did our best to isolate our anxieties from medical necessities only.  If we had not gone through this pregnancy, we would have remained naive on what pregnancy entailed. 

At the beginning of the second trimester, this was sometime in late Winter 2015, out of the blue, icepack and pressure on the top bony prominence of my Queen's nose was our only resort, as we experienced epistaxis. A fancy word for nose-bleed. This lasted for approximately 15- 30 minutes, lingered on, and slowly eased of after a week or two. 

Catch you on the next post!

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Becoming A Father

I've always enjoyed the sweet childhood memories with my brothers, and specifically with my parents; either it was going to the village on a weekend to see our grandparents or getting Christmas presents. So, I had always been keen to experience parenthood. I wondered what kind of father I would be. Also, I have always wanted to create awesome memories with my family, and fantasized about having lots of laughter, as I saw this as an opportunity to intentionally be silly all over again. 

When we found out that we would have twins, we were ecstatic. If I were good at backflips, I would have back flipped all day in euphoria.  But, the whole screaming and losing your voice kind of ecstatic mad up for my excitement. Man! This went on for a while, maybe, it still goes does, and it feels great. We had been married for 2-3 years, and our families and friends alike wondered when we would conceive. No pressure at all. .... Yeah! No pressure. 

So when we were blessed to with two, we knew our prayers had been answered.  Blessings on blessings on blessings! We remained humbled, and later surprised our families with the great news. In the midst of our euphoric state, we understood the complexities of a twin pregnancy, furthermore, considering how active we both were with our jobs, and being newly married, working full-time to make ends meet financially, we remained optimistic and prayed for the best outcome. In layman terms, it was also stressful. 

Pregnancies are delicate. More elusive when you know so much about its delicacy, and go through it for the first time, it can be stressful. The dynamics of our relationship changed. We prioritized differently, and compromised as we began to plan for our new future.  Wow! I'm becoming a father? I would often daydream. Deep down it felt so good. Deep down, I felt so clueless on what to expect. So prayed, and prayed for the best. 

As my queen's body began to change, so did our gems inside her. I changed also, I waked shoulder high, became more concerned and curious about our new transformation. Everything was new, but my excitement of becoming a father overshadowed any uncertain fears. I laughed at how wobbly she walked, and boasted " Yep! I did that"! 

As the morning sickness kicked in earlier, but did not last, I empathized with her, and Graham's crackers and spicy foods came in handy. I had heard how needy some women became during pregnancy, which mostly is attributed to hormonal changes, but my queen was easy on me, and the abundance of family support smoothens this phase of pregnancy. 

It was always exciting to go for the obstetrician visits, because we came home with the cool ultrasound photos, indicating the length of the gems, how their organs were developing, and what positions/locations they were in. Our princess had a different pose every time, and our prince barely let go of his thumb as he mostly assumed a yoga position in utero. 

We would often spend countless times imaging how they would look, how they would behave, and what traits they would have. And when it came to names, we had countless, from Mawuena & Mawoko, and the list goes on. Giving the African names was very important to us; we always want to keep our unique lineage and heritage. In line of lineage and heritage, we often imaging taking them to Ghana, and anticipating all the questions they would have, and how much we would share with them, as we toured our parents and forefather’s ancestry.